Monday, April 6th, 2009
I’ve been pondering former New York State’s Attorney General, Eliot Spitzer’s interview with Matt Lauer today. I’ve already written two blogs about it this morning. See previous two blogs.
His comments are so dead on to what Proverbs 7 declares, and the content I expressed in the 13 Ways book.
The following is another statement Spitzer made to Lauer on TODAY:
‘Like most of us I suppose, I’ve had flaws…. I’ve tried to think about it deeply, address it. There are no excuses. I have tried to address these gremlins; confront them. What I did was an egregious violation of trust to my family, to my colleagues, to the state, and I’ve paid a price and appropriately so.’
We all have flaws. And we must confront them, deal with them, confess them, share them with a godly and trusted friend or Biblical Christian Counselor, and also pray for God’s grace to overcome them, and then by His Spirit through an act of our will fight them. Our “flaws”, or “issues,” or our anger, or loneliness, or fatigue, or disappointment, or depression, or pasts, can haunt us. This is when we begin to lower our necks into the grip of sin— or in this case sexual sin.
As I say in 13 Ways, sexual sin can bring excuses or excuses can bring sexual sin. The “flaws” above can fuel excuses to numb ourselves with sexual sin. Don’t give in to the excuses. Excuses for sexual sin can cost an exorbitant price for your family and testimony.
Elbow your way through excuses and burdens and run to the Cross of Jesus. “Cast your burdens upon the Lord for He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7; Psalm 55:22). You are not Superman (or Superwoman), so don’t try to be. You are free from an ego.
There is no shame or weakness in admitting you are burdened, heavy-laden, and at your breaking point. My wife feels closest to me, and greatly respectful of me and respected by me, when I share my burdens and heaviness of life with her. When I call a brother, or sit with him over coffee, and tell him I’m about to explode, I walk away feeling somewhat unburdened. When I go to our Church small group and express the fears, burdens, and weight of life and marriage, I find great relief and encouragement. I want to highly, highly encourage you to do the same.
To carry your own burdens can crush you. To bear the weight of life in silence can make you desperate for relief. That desperation cal lead to excuses for sexual sin. And excuses for sexual sin can ruin you.