13 Ways to Ruin Your Life, the FREE book from Jarrod Jones
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In the last week, I have been dealing with sexual sin. I am a wife of 11 years and am guilty of having an affair in the past. Last weekend I was blindsided by a new friend. I thought I could dance close to the flame and not be burned…I am naturally flirty and this wasn’t my first rodeo after all, so I “thought” I had control. Before I knew it things were way out of hand between me & my new friend. I have spent the past few days trying to figure out how to get out of this tangled mess because it wasn’t something I really wanted to do, and the act had yet to be committed. God has moved in my life so much in the past year, I just felt horrible about the way I was carrying on..He didn’t deserve that from me. Last night I prayed about my situation…asked God to provide me a way out. This morning, you were on the show pushing this book. Granted it’s for guys, but it hit home with me. I figured I’d have to wait weeks before I could afford to order it, until you mentioned the free download. I knew it was meant for me then. I downloaded the book and read it through already. Half way through, I got my ever so familiar “morning email” from my new friend…your book and God’s help allowed me the courage to tell him it was over. Thank you. Your book probably saved my marriage. I will definitely recommend it to others and actually, I already have. I have also nominated my accountability partner, a friend of nearly 20 years. For future projects, I would like to see a book about how the “puddinization” of men (as Rick & Bubba put it) has affected women and their opinions of men. I know it’s not an excuse for an affair, but when your husband won’t work, won’t clean, won’t help with the kids and won’t lift a finger for anyone but himself, it’s hard to keep respect for him. Eventually, other avenues start to look appealing. I have too many girlfriends that have deadbeat husbands and they too teeter on that razor’s edge, so I know it’s an issue. I would love to see the day when men are REAL men again. I think it’s a topic well worth exploration. Well, that’s my 2 cents…May God bless you and your family and once again, thank you.
-Listener to Rick and Bubba Radio Show
Brother Jarrod gets right to the meat of the message in 13 Ways to Ruin Your Life. This is a truth telling, hard hitting, God honoring book on sex. I purchased this book while at a summer youth camp with Jarrod and I could not put it down. With great anticipation I look forward to teaching through this with my Senior High guys and the men of our church. For years I have longed for a practical “to the point” teaching tool for men on the ills of sexual sin and the joys of marital sex and 13 Ways to Ruin Your Life is that tool. Bobby Deets - Pastor - Town East Baptist Church - Mesquite, TX
I just finished your book. I was on the privileged ones that had it sent to them and I tell you it could not have come at a better time, God timed it perfectly.
I am a full time youth pastor and this book spoke directly to me. I’m telling you that the timing was God. I got the book about 2 weeks ago and found time yesterday to finally pick it up to read it. About a month ago I ran into a girl I knew when I was in High School before I got saved. We dated but never had sex and I guess she has had that in the back of her mind for over 15 years. During the conversation I told her I was a youth pastor and that I was married nine years with 3 sons, she went on to say that she knew that I would be a great man and that she always wanted to have sex with me, even after I told her I was Married with 3 kids and a youth pastor she told me she wanted to have sex with me. She went on to tell me that no one ever had to know and asked “aren’t you curious to what it would feel like” and “what if we both died tomorrow you don’t want to die tomorrow wondering how it would have been?” and before I could interject she went on to share some very explicit things she wanted to do to me (things that my wife never has done) and that for all these years she hoped to meet up with me one day to tell me that. I then asked her “you don’t mind being the other woman?” she responded, “if it’s your other woman then no”.
I haven’t been approached like that since 2001. In the back of my mind I was like she was still very attractive and no strings attached, but all I could think about is my God, my wife and my boys. I then told her that I love my God, I love my wife and I love my sons too much to have an affair with any woman, and that I respect her too much to make her the other woman in my life. After that she teared and said I understand and I respect you for that, we spoke for a little bit about her parents then parted ways. But since that time before I read your book my mind would return to that encounter and would ask myself “what if?”. Your book came at an amazing time, I am blown away. I have been struggling with if I should tell my wife what happened and I know I was going to but this book encouraged me to not wait, we are going to talk tonight when I get home. Thank you for being obedient and writing a such heartfelt book. My teen boys, and the men in my church will be encouraged to read this book. – Anonymous
Before Reading 13 Ways - I just downloaded a copy of your new book. As a youth leader, I had intended to scan its contents to see whether it would be a good volume to recommend to the young men I teach. After reading the first chapter, I now plan on reviewing the entire volume. I was very impressed with the way in which you addressed lust and confess that I found your statements to be quite an encouragement. My sister and I are both single and, just last night, were discussing how frustrating it is that the difference in attitudes between the men we meet seem to be whether they want to sleep with us now or sleep with us after they marry us. As strange as it is, I would like a man to marry me because he loves me! It was a great encouragement to see a Christian man address the issue: sin is sin no matter how you slice it. — Anna Gheen - Idaho Falls, ID
After Reading 13 Ways - I wanted to let you know that I finished reading your book and decided to step outside of the box and recommend it to the girls in my group as well as the guys. The thoughts you share are Biblical and, as a result, are as applicable for the young women as they are for the young men. I also appreciated your earnest, positive approach to the subject. God, not guilt, should be the center in all that we do. – Anna Gheen - Idaho Falls, ID
I happened upon your site through the Rick & Bubba Guest info page…from what I have read in your blogs and bio, I would agree that this is a much needed book for our overly stimulated, instant gratification culture. Having grown up with these kind of things in my own home, I now find myself in the difficult and frustrating seat of protecting my children from the devastating things that are so casually talked about and displayed all around us. Keep up the good work and God bless.–Eric Nguyen Sylvan Springs, AL
Recently I read 13 Ways to Ruin Your Life. Best book I’ve read in a looong time. Thank you so much, God has certainly been using you. Thank you so much for rising up, Jarrod. — Clint Forrette
I just rejoice each day for Christians who have the strength like you who share their story and it inadvertently helps other Christians like me. I heard you on the radio show, Rick and Bubba one morning and it was a major turning point in the struggle with pornography for me. For as long as I can remember I have struggled with it. I became a Christian at a young age and I didn’t prepare myself like I should have for the battle that would soon conquer me over and over. I even thought that once my wife and I married and had rededicated our lives to Christ I could defeat it. I was sorely wrong. I travel a great deal with my job and I found myself more and more involved with looking at pornography while I was on the road. My wife eventually caught me and I can’t tell you how appreciative I was of it. She could have torn me apart, but instead she helped me and prayed for me and we got books together. I have read numerous books on struggling with pornography and prayed hard. However when I came across your book and heard your message on the radio it hit me hard. For some reason I never thought of it as ruining my life. It was something I struggled with. But when I downloaded your book and started reading I realized I have pretty much taken those 13 ways and had ruined my life over and over. Through prayer and the support of my wife and other friends I am on my way to winning the battle and becoming what I feel is the Christian man God has made me to be. I pray one day I can start a group for men about this very topic. I would love to share my story because it is much more complex than what I have typed here but I didn’t want to spend all day on it. I have shared my story with several of my close friends and it helps us all because no matter what our struggle or addiction is, I think when we make it known to other Christians that they are not the only one struggling with something, it give us strength and hope in our faith that we can over come and we are not the only ones dealing with this pain. Thank you so much for what you stand for. God bless and I pray your message like so many others out there will reach men and women all over who struggle with this.
- Reader, “13 ways”
heyy just got back from camp and wanted to say that you have really touched my heart i really thank you for everything cuz i have always though i did the right thing as a christian but you showed me wrong and i wanna thank you so much
oh and i never new that you wrote the book 13-ways i thought that you just recomended it and i reeeeeeeeeeeeeeelly wanted to take a pic with you but i didnt get to and its ok also ty ty ty ty ty ty again
i really dont wanna praise you to much (no offense) but a lot of people end up going to hell cuz the fact that they thank there “Pastor” too much for saving them and all there focus is on him instead of you know of the guy who really saved them which is JESUS!!!!!!!! and GOD Love you
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